This is a reasonable good listen, though it’s hard to follow exactly on audiobook with so many details and there is no book version. This was more a coaching seminar than a book. Summary is below:
“Hidden” from the non-academic world. There were shrunk down to 7 to be achievable within the shortest amount of time. Criteria: can survive in 7 days in a strange city. Motivation: a compelling reason why – reason – will – and emotion: determined, disturbed (arouse). Deconstruct and Re-construct.
1. Reason why – big enough reason to change (not enough to appeal to emotion). Facts gives us the reason to justify our decision – reality check. Head can’t go with the heart without reason – rationalization. Disturbing questions to ask – use logic to create cognitive dissonance – demolish old beliefs. Exercises: track a journal of reality. Practice shift to long-term goal – zoom in/out. Taking elevator of emotion down: take note of the emotions. Track the opportunity costs of taking no actions – danger of being naive.
2. Changing the belief, attitude (expectation, and value). If we don’t expect success, we’re not getting it. “Impossible is over-rated.” “Change your though and you change the world.” Have I tied my top goals to my believes and values? 3 Kinds of beliefs: probability, social (expectation of others), and ability (our capability to actually achieve our outcome. Realistic feasible plan helps to increase the probability. Detailed plan, scenario analysis help with the ability belief.
6-5-4 strategies: 6 major world views: (Types of Men) aesthetic, life philosophy, reason (hunger for intellectual knowledge) power (personal power), practical, humanatarin. 5 motives behind motivation: who (social), what (sub goals), when and where, why, how. 4 motivation environments: dominant, inducement ,submission and compliant. 1. adventurer, 2. motivator (needs recognition), 3. harmonizer (needs appreciation and control), 4. planner (needs security, definition and follow instructions).
1. Uncovering your unconscious limiting beliefs – belief assessment – Aristotle treatment. Limiting beliefs: in terms of permanent or temporary. Pervasiveness (universal or specific), hopeless or hopeful. Ask yourself: “What would you lose or what could go wrong if you get what you want?” “What sort of negative things would they say about you if you get what you wanted?” ” What prevents things from changing?” “What blockages cause things to stay the same old ways?” “What past experiences could be spilling over to your presence and future?” “What things are stopping you from getting what you want?” “What appears to be almost impossible to get what you want?” “What seems to always prevent you from reaching your outcomes?” “What are things that would never change for you?” “What the skills or abilities that would prevent you from reaching your outcome?”
2. putting the limiting beliefs to a logical format: premise-> Conclusion.
In view of this fact ______, I conclude that _____.
If _____, then ______.
Because _______, as a result _________.
For the following reasons _______ , consequently _____ .
If we assume ______ , then we can infer ______ .
Since ______ , leads to the ________ .
Assuming that _______ , proves that _________ .
3. re-frame the limiting belief.
4. belief assess. Probability: This goal seems impossible ___ because ____. What could have been if it’s easy? Social: Relation impact? Because? What voice? Ability: What ability do you lack? I need the following skills _____? Decision making process: What assumption am I making? What are my options? What criteria? How do I make progress?
Success language declaration: Base on the probability, I will _________. Based on my positive support system, I will ________. Based on my partnership _____. Based on my detailed plan, I will _____.
5. paradigm shift: What __ , if ___, then ___. What is my current belief. But if it’s possible, then ____.
6. Align your personality.
7. Align with you top two attitudes.
8. Increase your desire to achieve your goals. Crank up the meaning purpose 100 times. What would you have to lose in the attitudes? Visualize a short movie in 30 days in the following areas: beliefs, emotions, social, spiritual, financial, habits, will power, thinking, focus.
3. Clear focus on key issues: Pull, intentionality, effortlessness. Intention is a powerful predictor. Narrow cast – seeing opportunities that others do not see. Do I easily get distracted from my goals? We are what we focus on all day long. Am I following through on my goals? Train our mind to not see the distractions – pure motive (what you’re becoming not just wealth). Baseball analogy: Clear focus on 1st base, beliefs on 2nd base, attitudes on 3rd base, actions on home plate.
4. Spiritual/religion: lots of religion stuff here. Don’t be overly self-reliant. This is a stretch. Be – Do – Have. Who do I need to become in order to be happy?
8 steps: 1. incorporate opportunities to your goal each day, 2. use pre-rehearsal to set your intention strongly, 3. put out reminder to remind you of your intentions to your goals, 4. pick the right people to train you on your goals, 5. determine your core surrender issue and resolve it (fear of control, social rejection, confrontation, unknown and undefined), 6. reflect the metaphor of raising the sail and let the wind carries you, 7. think of the archetypes of gods and confessions daily (journaling), 8. think through stages of moral.
4. Warrior’s Edge Resistance to temptation. Absence of wanting – negation. Maintain your inner drive by ignoring instead of fighting, when facing difficulty. Watch comedy or humor daily.
5. Behavior Congruent: Use music, smell, touch, exercises, laughter and etc. 4-step STOP process: 1). Startle (disrupt, shock, surprise, grab attention, “warning,” “news alert”). 2). Triggering & Transfer (dis-engage, move and engage: attach a strong biological/philosophical driver, like drinking, waking up, to your higher intention). 3). Originality and ROI: reward seeking (feel pleasure & satisfied). What can do I to add something new/innovative to my process? Why is it better? Which one offers the best ROI? 4). Power and Purpose: being soulful, selfless mission, have a problem to solve, not self-conscious ego. Learn Viola Spolin’s acting techniques. Be well disciplined & being honest to all people. Exercises: Teach and mentor someone, assemble peer groups.
6, 7. Some thing to die for and something to live for: “The biggest problem you have is that you don’t have a bigger problem.” How true! Create a genuine mission, something outside of yourselves to live for and die for.