Book Review: “The No Complaining Rule: Positive Ways to Deal with Negativity at Work” by Jon Gordon

This is a relatively short book about cultivating a positive work culture. The central theme is simple: no complaining, negativity or the “cancer” in the work environment as insinuated by the author, who uses a fictional story to drill down the point effectively though seems corny at times.

The tools given by the authors are:
1. No complaining days
2. Use “but” phrase at the end of a complaint to turn around the negativity. Give thanks, show gratitude every time you think of complaining.
3. Focus on “get to” instead of “have to.” Focused on being blessed instead of stressed. Focus on gratitude.
4. Turn complaints into solutions. Every complaint represents a opportunity to turn a negative into a positive.

Five things to do instead of complaining.
1. Practice gratitude.
2. Praise others. Focus on what they’re doing right.
3. Focus on success: start a success journal. Before you go to bed, write down the one great thing about your day.
4. Let go. Let go of the things that are beyond your control.
5. Pray and meditate.

The fictional character, Hope, divorced and was faced with two problem teenagers, crisis at work, and personal health problem. She was down and negative. Of course, the heroes of the day were: 1. the gardener who argued the best way to drive away weed (negativity) is to foster a healthy environment for the grass, leaving no room for weed. 2. the nurse who taught her how to stay positive, 3. the children who responded to Hope’s no-complaining rule. Corny, isn’t it? But it’s effective in driving home the essence of the story in people’s mind. Hard to forget stories.

Book Review: “The Little Book That Saves Your Assets: What the Rich Do to Stay Wealthy in Up and Down Markets” by David M. Darst

This is a beginner’s book on asset allocation. “Uncle Frank” the investment wizard sprinkled lots of investment wisdom throughout the book. There is not a lot of breakthrough ideas in this book. I listened to the audiobook and I can honestly say I didn’t learn anything new from the author’s advises. Maybe I’m too advanced for this book but if you are a neophyte in the investment, this book and Uncle Frank’s advises may be for you.

Book Review: “The Key: The Missing Secret for Attracting Anything You Want” by Joe Vitale

The Key is all about the Law of Attraction. By “clearing” oneself and opening yourself to the possibilities you desire, you will get what you want, eventually. More of the book include insights from the book author and other authors. The audiobook has a much more comprehensive direct recording of these inputs and Q&A’s.

I particularly like the method of driving away the guilt feeling of wanting more: just say “I am completely satisfied; I just want more.” Why not? The world is abundant. Why set a limit of yourself? Of course, many of the mortgage traders who contributed to the 2008 mortgage debacle probably said the same thing. But it’s better to start out with a good intention and give gratitude to what you already have.

I’m not so sure that everything that happened to us was because we’re attracted to it. Is it called accident? But I do agree that many things happened because we’re attracted to them or they’re attracted to us. Planting the seeds of desires are the key.

This book is better than I expected. I watched the Secret video and found it to be very fluffy – not substantive. At least this book taught you several technique to clear the blocks to the Law of Attraction. The audiobook is well worth listening to.

More summary below:

10 clearing methods from the book:
I. Be grateful.
II. Opting to change beliefs. Ask yourself:
1. What are you unhappy about?
2. Why are you unhappy about that?
3. What are you concerned would happen if you were not unhappy about that?
4. Do you believe in that?
5. Why do you believe in that?
6. What are you concerned would happen if you did not believe that?

III. Unraveling your thoughts – hidden thoughts that are attracting what you don’t want.
1. Identify your intrusive, upsetting, or disruptive thoughts.
2. Approach your thoughts like an impartial jury would evaluate evidence.
3. Conduct some behavioral experiments to further test out the truth of the thoughts.
4. Decide how true your original thought is based on the evidence you gathered and the results of your behavioral experiments.
5. Realize that your troubling or limiting thoughts are not necessary.

IV. Read books for hypnotic storytelling by others.

V. Say “I Love you” to the Devine before tackling a big task. This is author’s secret weapon to show his entrusting his fate with the Devine.

VI. Use TFT (Thought Field Therapy) or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique), which are like acupressure technique to relief stress.

VII. Nevillize it – create your reality through imagination. Feel what it would be to (have a mansion and etc.) Or script yourself to success.

VIII. Forgive yourself and others and thank them (radical forgiveness) for teaching you a lesson.

IX. Healing your body that holds blocks as thoughts and emotions. Have a conversation with your body. This one is a little out there. But it works, more power to it.

X. Feel the vital message:
1. Welcome the feeling.
2. Sit with the feeling.
3. Describe the feeling.
4. Ask the feeling what it’s trying to tell you. There is a lesson to be learned.

Insights on manifesting money: Money, by itself, if nothing but paper and metal. It’s us who apply meaning to it. Start thinking money like monopoly money. It does’t determine whether you are happy or not. Focused on the a passion, fun and sharing, doing good things. Don’t send out a feeling of need, attachment and addiction. Focus on on what you love.

Emotional freedom 101:
1. Welcome the feeling.
2. Dive into the feeling.
3. Increase it mentally (double it).
4. Let go of wanting it to go away.
5. Feel love.
6. Appreciate the unwanted feelings away.
7. Just drop the feeling.
8. Do conscious comparison.
9. Be the sky (not cloud).
10. Float it away.
11. Let go of disapproving yourself or your feeling.
12. Give yourself approval.
13. Float a red ballon.
14. Allow it to evaporate.
15. Use a water valve to control the flow.
16. Let go of just 1 percent (incrementally).
17. Embrace it with passion.

Movie Review: “The Descendants”

George Clooney is the descendants of the rich royal family of the Hawaii king. The cousins, represented by George, the trustee, were going to sell their huge land holding off Kawai coast to a golf/resort developer.

The movie started out in the hospital bed where Matt King (George Clooney) was beside the bed of his wife, Elizabeth, in coma after a speed boat accident. It was during his scolding his elder daughter when he found that her bad behavior rebelling against her mother was because his wife was having an affair with a real estate broker and was about to seek a divorce against him. He chased this man, Brian Speer, to Kawai and discovered that he was married with two children. He slipped the chance to meet this man and discovered that Elizabeth didn’t mean anything to him. Turns out this man will benefit enormously if he decided to sell his inherited trust to the local developer. He decided against it and ended up keeping the place, bestowing a revenge against the person who cheated with his wife. The movie ended with his sitting comfortably with his two daughters watching TV as if life will go on nicely after his wife’s death.

This movie is about betrayal, death, and family relationships: daughter/father, father-in-law, cousins – Hawaiian-style, and friendships (especially the one between husband and wife). There are light moments like his daughter’s (Alex) friend, Sid, and the foul language used by his younger daughter of 10 years old.

The lessons learned are 1) don’t do anything you’d be sorry in case you got yourself in a coma – alive and cannot talk back. 2) sometimes the best revenge could be just doing the right thing (not selling the estate), 3) children’s behaviors are often a reflection or reaction to parents’ bad behaviors.

The movies have wonderful Hawaiian scenery. George Clooney’s acting was good but not enough to win an Oscar. This is a good DVD movie to watch a home, not worth going to the movie theater for.

Book Review: “The Price of Civilization: Reawakening American Virtue and Prosperity” by Jeffrey D. Sachs

This book is all about what have gone wrong for the United States and what needs to be done.

The author cited Ronald Reagan’s presidency as the beginning of the downfall due to his anti-tax stand. Reagan cut domestic spending using an example like “welfare queen” to portray the big government’s waste in spending. The Prop 13 ushered in the anti-taxation era. But the real culprit is not over taxation but globalization, the author argued, which allows corporations to race the taxation to the bottom as countries and states pays or offer tax rebates to be in the game.

The author also pointed out that U.S.’s two parties are two “right-of-center” parties – more or less the same; Republicans are supported by Big Oils and the Democrats are supported by the Wall Street. Ultimately, the lobbyists of the four big industries, military industry, wall-street, big oil, and health cares, pull the strings of the politicians – the “corporatacracy” wins big.

Of course, it doesn’t help that the society is distracted by “conspicuous consumption” or a race to keep up with the Jones, influenced by TV, and hyper-commercialism (mass persuasion). The author established by data the correlation of corruption to TV viewing and negative correlation to social trust to TV viewing.

To remedy the “big crash,” The author argued for Buddha’s “middle path” concept. Be mindful of self, work, knowledge, others (compassion/cooperation), nature, the future, politics, and the world. The author offer a path and 8 goals to achieve from now to 2020 to address the ills of the country. The goals cover unemployment, quality of access to education, reduce poverty, avoid environmental catastrophe, balance the federal budget, improve governance, national security, raise America’s happiness and life satisfaction.

The author outlined the math in paying for civilization (government). Of course, getting higher tax revenue is the critically difficult step. Taxing the rich sufficiently (from top rate of 35% to 39.6%) seems to be the key ingredient. Other tax raising avenues are raising taxes on oil, gas, coal, and curbing tax evasion, and taxing financial transaction and introducing VAT (value-added sales tax).

The author also offers the 7 habits of highly effective government: 1. set clear goals and benchmarks, 2. mobilize expertise, 3. make multiyear plan, 4. be mindful of the far future, 5. end the corporatocracy, 6. restore public management, 7 de-centralize. Sachs counted on the young (aged 18 to 29 now) generation to lead and push for changes. Of course, we all have to pitch in if we intend to continue our “civilization” and the way of our life.

Overall, I think the book was well written. Sachs used his tremendous international economic experience to analyze our current situation and offer some methods to remedy it. I think his attribution of the anti-tax movement to globalization is probably right. Unfortunately, blaming the foreigners doesn’t sell votes and comes away more like victim blaming. Blaming the government is easier. Sachs’s blaming our excessive TV watching and hyper-commercialism for our shirking the duty of watching the government is right on. Raising taxes on the people who pay the lobbyists to influence the politician won’t be easy. Just hope there are more gutsy politicians willing to stand up against the tide of legalized corruption. I found the book well researched and author’s views very insightful. I wish the same outcome of “reawakening American virtue and prosperity.”

Rooting and snaking drains

As much as I hate doing plumbing work, there would be days when I need to do the dirty work of rooting a stuffed/slow train as the “joy” of the home and rental-property ownership. Last week was those days and I learned a few things I would like to share:

1. Stuffed toilet is best tried with a good accordion type of plunger shown as below: Of course, one must be careful not to make a mess; making the person who created the situation to clean up the mess may help prevent future occurrences.
Accordion-style plunger

2. If the above doesn’t work, then the toilet snake may be deployed. I used the 6-ft model below to ensure the “thing” gets pushed out farther away from the toilet. Make sure the rubber hose protection hug around the neck of the toilet to prevent scratches to your porcelain toilet. I found this tool to be very effective in cleaning up just about anything that got thrown into the toilet.
Toilet Auger/Snake

3. To fix the slow tub train, I used a simple handheld snake with an electric drill. Below is a good Youtube video that may help. I don’t necessarily endorse this particular electric snake/auger machine as I don’t own it but the outlined safety steps and the techniques (like backing off when reaches resistance during snaking) are right on the dot. In my particular case, I had tried snaking this tub several times. I even hired a “professional” rooter to do it without much success. (He just told me there is something “hard” in the path and gave up without fixing it and charging me – bless his soul.) In this case, I snaked in roughly 3 ft from the tub vent before hitting a hard resistance. In all past trials, I tried forcing the snake through and ended up kinking the snake cable and got stuck and eventually gave up. I suspected the P-trap design for this old tub has a sharp angle or too big a diameter that caused the snake cable to curl on itself. But This last time I tried backing off a bit while turning and pushing in a bit several times before making the breakthrough – my Voila moment. Patience and persistence are the key steps toward cleaning out a stubborn stuffed drain. Of course, good techniques help.